We spent several days hanging around the house, talking,
eating, and doing other stuff (I myself took the time to watch a few movies and
write in this blog, of course). But at night one time, O suggested we all go to
the night market of Chok Chai. It’s not like the huge night markets that exist
in certain bigger cities…we saw a bigger night market later and I prefer this
night market. It was smaller, simpler, and I enjoyed looking at the things they
sold much more. It was much more bohemian and easygoing and beautiful than
bigger night markets, which seem more commercial. This was just wonderful.
There was all kinds of goods, fruit, meat, fish, vegetables,
and some places sold meals too, like barbecued chicken or pork, pad thai, sweet
fried bread and other desserts, grilled corn on the cob, and much more. They
even sold barbecued insects! Those were mostly outside of the tent.
If you look closely, there's squid there on the platform being sold.
Drool...I wish I could've tried it all. But there's was so much good food I was eating already that I couldn't possibly have room to try everything Chok Chai has to offer.
This is Pad Thai being sold. O would get this from the night market sometimes and bring it home and we'd eat it there. It was really delicious, ONE of my favorite dishes here. Only one. One of many. They mixed it with shrimp and peanuts and bean sprouts and yummy stuff. So good.
My insect-tasting days ended in Peru, I fear. But the chance has come my way many times while being in China and Thailand.
I don't know what the brown vegetable things are, but the red ones are fruit. Don't they look like a cross between an apple and a bell pepper? Well...that's exactly what they TASTE like too!
Inside the big tents, there were clothes (traditional and
modern), perfumes, underwear, automobile/bike parts, tools, dry snack foods, carved
sculptures for decorations, pictures/paintings, and much more. And O seemed to
know everyone there. We’d be walking down the aisles and O would be called by
someone working the stands. This happened many times. But it makes sense,
because she has lived here for many years, she grew up here.
Outside the tents, we passed several stands selling
different types of clothing. I felt much more comfortable potentially buying
clothes here because the people here were of all shapes and sizes. There wasn’t
just a super small size that as a foreigner I could never dream of fitting into…and
in America I’m regarded as average or smaller. We were in one clothes section
and O asked me if I’d like some tights. I LOVE tights. They’re one of my go-to
clothes items. And unfortunately, one of my tights is getting ripped right now.
So yes, I said I would, and I got ready to buy the ones I had chosen, but O
said, “No, it’s my treat!” And she got them for me! She really is a really
really sweet lady. Really.


While we were getting the tights O had run into another
group of ladies she knew. They were having a conversation and this one young
lady, maybe a couple years younger than us got all shy around Kyle and asked if
she could take a picture with him. And she did. Then she comes over to me and
says I’m so beautiful and asks to take a picture with me. Now that was a
surprise…I hadn’t really been getting a lot of that in Xiangyang. In a small
city like Xiangyang, people have seen less of the world but generally carry a Westernized
standard of beauty (or shall I say European?). So often they’ll goggle at the
foreigners of European descent and briefly acknowledge me. Sometimes I’ve had
better experiences, sometimes I’ve had worse. But in general, let’s just say I’ve
had to really work to maintain my self-esteem and confidence in Xiangyang,
because they’ve really tested me. So being here in Thailand and having people
look at me with such admiration was a complete change of attitude.
I think perhaps I needed that because I felt really good
after that…I think I hadn’t realized how much my self-confidence was hanging on
by a thread, because I had masked it all with cynicism and jadedness. I don’t
like that I’ve been so beat down and I’m working on not letting anything phase
me because in all reality, what’s most important is what I think of myself and
nothing else. But for now though, this change of attitude was helping me
rebuild myself and once more become comfortable in my own skin. And boy did it
do numbers…I’ve felt more self-confident than I’ve felt in a very long time I
think. It’s a good feeling…I hope I can remain this self-confident as I return
to Xiangyang in a few weeks. I think I’ll be ready for it all again.
I just loved every minute of being at the night market. I
couldn’t stop grinning wherever I went. I grinned the entire ride as we drove
through the town. I grinned as we ate delicious food. I grinned as we walked
through the night market. I grinned at everyone who glanced at me. It was just
somehow so easy to be happy right now. Call it the honeymoon phase of being in
a foreign country. It’s when you’re just fascinated by anything and everything
you see when you first arrive in a new country. And though I know Thailand has
its ups and downs that I’m aware of…there are many similarities between it and
China…I was having a wonderful experience here. I was around good people,
eating good food, and seeing beautiful things all around me.
It’s like I was star-struck, but rather I was more
Thailand-struck, gawking in awesomeness at what was in front of me…it’s a
completely different experience than I’ve ever had in any country I’d been to. And
yet I realized something: THIS WAS THE FIRST COUNTRY I HAD EVER BEEN TO IN
WHICH I COULD NOT UNDERSTAND A SINGLE WORD THAT WAS SPOKEN. I had studied
Spanish for two years before I went to Peru, and so I was able to get around
the city of Iquitos without major problems. And I was able to hold a basic
conversation with a friend who spoke no English, only Spanish. And in China, it
was pretty much the same thing. Not to mention the Jamaica, where they speak
English. No, this was the first place I was completely helpless. And I didn’t
like that feeling. I don’t like feeling helpless. So I tried to learn a few
basic words. I made sure that the majority of words that O taught me, I tried
to remember. So I’ve got a few, a SMALL few, phrases I’ve collected now to get
around. Things like, “Hello” and “Thank you” and names of things.
Anyway, night market was great, and as we were leaving, O
invited me to go to the day market the next day. The day market wasn’t really a
“day” market, it was really early in the morning, before the sun got high. So I
got up early and we left the big house at 6 to go to the market, even though it
opens an hour or two earlier than that.
We went over there and it was quite the same as before,
except in the morning and without as much of a bustling crowd as you’d see in
the night market. Once more, it was wonderful. There was fresh food in
abundance, fresh fruits, fresh vegetables, fresh cuts of meat, fresh fish that
were still flopping around, and more. We made our way through the aisles, and
as O went to buy some cuts of pork, she introduced me to the lady working at
the stand. I couldn’t say a single word, so I tried my best to smile and look
pleasant (honestly, it was really quite easy because I was having so much fun),
and I think the smiling did the trick.
What I’ve learned from being here is
that Thai people are very smiling group of people. Even my Thai friends in China were the same way, constantly smiling. I don’t necessarily say
happy, because while a smile generally signifies happiness, as Kyle’s uncle
said: a smile can have so many different meanings. Thai people smile a lot,
even if they’re not happy, there’s a not-happy smile. It’s kind of like myself,
because I do the exact same thing. I smile a whole ton, I sometimes find it
hard not to smile…the only time when I don’t smile for the most part is when I’m
in my own little world, daydreaming or concentrating on reading or writing
something…like this blog for example. But other than that, if I’m angry, I
smile HARD. If I’m said, I give a sad smile. If I’m happy I smile widely, I can’t
help it. I can’t NOT smile if I’m so ecstatically happy.
Anyway, I smiled to the lady and nodded in respectful acknowledgement…I
acquired this habit from Youya. She taught me a lot. And it was enough. The
lady seemed really happy to meet me. It was cool. Then she took a line of
sausage links and gave them to O, and O translated what she said for me. She said,
“These are for you for free, if you like them you can come back and get more!”
I nodded and smiled again and that was that.